This is Lizzie’s journey of navigating domestic abuse, breakup and family court.
The breakup of a long-standing relationship is enough for anyone. But, for Lizzie*, there were multiple challenges in the family courts. In fact, she found herself at court 12 times over a two-year period. Lizzie’s journey demonstrates that with determination and the right support, it’s possible to overcome obstacles and make a fresh start.
Breakup
As a result of her ex-partner’s substance use, aggression and violence, Lizzie moved out and settled into a new home. Lizzie had hoped things would improve after the breakup. Unfortunately, her ex-partner decided to initiate family court proceedings. This brought renewed conflict and started a prolonged and complex process. Consequently, Lizzie found herself under huge emotional and financial pressure. On top of this, she had ongoing concerns about safety, safeguarding and the impact on her child.
Lizzie’s journey through family court
Lizzie’s journey highlights the harsh reality of navigating family court after domestic violence and separation.
Unable to access Legal Aid
Unable to access Legal Aid was a huge disappointment. But with the CASS+ team by her side, Lizzie was able to keep her costs down.
Additional needs
In Lizzie’s eyes, the process did not seem to recognise the additional needs of her child. She worked hard to ensure that the court took these into consideration, especially when it came to the Cafcass stance on contact.
Dangerous situation
After the breakup, this became a dangerous situation. When it came to child arrangements, Lizzie felt that the court process itself was being used to continue the pattern of control.
Lizzie has been strong
Throughout the process, Lizzie has been strong and focused on her child’s needs. Primarily, she ensured her child’s wishes were understood and represented, despite the uncertainty and strain of one hearing after another.
She did all this whilst caring for her child, running a household and holding down a job.
Meeting the CASS+ team
Lizzie picks up:
‘Meeting the CASS+ team changed everything. It’s very daunting at court. It’s easy to miss something or forget things when you’re under pressure. They summarised everything so well. They helped me stay calm and focused. Despite feeling overwhelmed, CASS+ gave me the confidence to continue advocating for my child.
Financial strain
I spent thousands of pounds on time off work to attend hearings and appointments. Despite being the one experiencing abuse, there were costs for legal and professional contact services. My finances were under huge strain. CASS+ prevented further unnecessary expenditure.
Emotional support and practical help
CASS+ provided consistent and practical support, helping me to understand the process, manage expectations and communicate appropriately with the court, particularly when dealing with Cafcass.
Also, the CASS+ team supported me by explaining changes to contact arrangements. On top of this, they helped me to understand how to use the contact centre.
Putting my child’s needs first
As a result of CASS+, I was able to focus on my child’s needs. After 12 hearings over two and a half years, the outcome was relatively balanced. For example, phased child arrangements, handovers facilitated by a third party, non-molestation order and a parenting app to support communication.
I would not have found the strength without the support of CASS+.
We are definitely in a better place. I don’t think I could have got through this without Ben and Louise at CASS+. I felt like giving up so many times, but they kept me on track and focussed. It’s been invaluable.’
Need help through family court?
Do you need support through court? This is how we can help you.
If you are unable to access Legal Aid and can’t afford a solicitor through family court in Devon and Cornwall, please complete the self-referral form here, or, find your local hub in Devon or Cornwall here.
Other support services available
Further mental health support is also available here.
Find out more about the role of a child contact centre here.
*Name changed to protect identity